18 life lessons in 18 years

 I'm finally 18 and I decided what better way to reflect on my life so far than write the 18 life lessons in 18 years. Wow, that's a lot of 18 in one sentence.


1.  Not everyone is going to like you and that's ok. You might be the "best" person ever but there is still going to be someone that dislikes you. Sadly, that's just life. Don't focus on the few people that dislike you but instead use your energy to better and maintain your relationships. 

2. Put the right amount of water in instant noodles else they are going to taste disgusting.
Seems like common sense, right? Don't even put a little bit of extra water in there else you will want to cry because it tastes just horrible.

3. If you don't ask, you won't know. You shouldn't be fearful of asking when you don't understand something. Whether that's in school or in the workplace, it's completely normal to not understand everything. Asking somebody is so much better than sitting feeling awkward because you have no idea what you're doing.

4. Don't let yourself fall behind in school. We all remember GCSE art and rushing to finish all of the coursework at the last minute, it wasn't fun. Rushing things will never be fun. Give yourself time to process the information correctly, catch up on work if you miss it. Education is important. 

5. Try not to hold grudges - it only makes life harder.
That person may have really annoyed you and you're allowed to not talk to them and completely ignore their existence if you really want to but don't let them make you feel sick with anger every time they walk in the room or you see them post on social media. They are honestly not worth it.

6. Don't let a mistake define you. When reading this back to myself, all I could think of was the Hannah Montana song..."Everybody makes mistakes, everybody has those days"...Anyway, we aren't perfect and it's ok to do something wrong but it's not ok to then let this define you. Mistakes may be made but what you learn from it is much more important. 

7. Your grades aren't everything but they still matter. It's not the end of the world if you didn't get the best mark in that test but don't tell yourself that it simply doesn't matter. No matter what you want to do in your life, qualifications will help you and they will be something to fall back on if your original plan doesn't work out so take school seriously but don't make it the be all, end all. Like they say, they are only letters on a piece of paper and they aren't worth all nighters and tears. Just try your best.

8. You needn't put your whole life on social media. Social media is a great thing but you needn't post every detail of your life. That's right 13 year old Lauryn, I'm talking to you - people don't really care what you're having for dinner or whether you've had an argument with someone who was never actually your friend.

9. Avoid peer pressure at all costs. Luckily, as you grew up, you created your own identity and you won't let anyone tell you what to do. However, remember that you never have to do anything that you don't feel comfortable with because you are your own person and if someone starts to hate you because you don't comply with one of their silly games, they were never your friend anyway. 

10. Putting yourself first is not a bad thing.
Don't let them call you selfish for doing what you want to do because sometimes selfishness is needed. Let's be honest, altruism is somewhat of a myth - we need to care about ourselves. However, this doesn't give you permission to not care about other people at all. 

11. Don't keep toxic friendships. It's difficult to cut ties with people but you can see when your "friends" aren't really your friends. Don't let this destroy you, you deserve a lot better than to be made to feel bad by people who couldn't care less about you.

12. Don't be ashamed of your hobbies. So what if nobody else likes what you're interested in, that just makes you more unique and that is a good thing. You needn't try to fit in with everyone. Do what you enjoy.

13. Be nice to your waiter or cleaner or whoever. Just be nice, you have learnt that there are plenty of people in this world who are so rude to waiters and cleaners because you've had experience of it. Don't be like them - be polite. 

14. You needn't compare yourself to others. Some peoples personal targets will be more than yours, some will be less. Everyone wants to succeed different things in life so don't feel bad if you don't have the same aims, just focus on your achievements.

15. Those year 7 photos are never going to disappear. No matter how much you want your past self to leave forever, those photos are always going to haunt you. Evidently, the world doesn't want you to forget about your JLS obsessed self with your horrific hair and waaaaay too thick eyeliner...I mean, how could I forget?!

16. Kill them with kindness. Yes Lauryn, I know you may want to shout at them but just annoy them with kindness and that'll be the best thing you can do.

17. Never apologise for your feelings. You needn't explain yourself to anyone and you never have to belittle your emotions or make yourself feel worse for feeling the way you do. 

18. Try and spend the rest of your life being as happy as you can. Lauryn, you've made it. You've become a lot stronger and you're much better now, spend your time making yourself as happy as can be. Don't let anyone take it away from you, you spent too much time feeling bad but now, you can feel good. You've got this. 

What is your most important life lesson?

- Lauryn 


6 comments:

  1. These are great tips and oh so true! :)

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  2. You're a smart young lady. I especially like number 14 and 15. Be who you are and continue to grow, and most of all don't leave God out of your life! (advice from one who turned 18 a very long time ago)

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  3. You are a bright young lady and I'm so glad there are young people like you.

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